tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8430245182138060252.post3150764184783230265..comments2023-11-03T03:34:41.142-07:00Comments on Chocolate Covered Daydreams: Life as Married Boo Knew It: my parents' divorce.Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04459265311205890622noreply@blogger.comBlogger24125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8430245182138060252.post-27518357221679860702013-01-22T10:30:01.353-08:002013-01-22T10:30:01.353-08:00It's so kind of you to drop by and share your ...It's so kind of you to drop by and share your story, Ev'Yan. You and your mom are extremely talented in writing! Anyway, let's get back to your story; I think it’s great that you have such a strong personality, and that you have an invincible relationship with your husband Jonathan. You have truly learned something from the failed marriage of your parents. A relationship will have its ups and downs, but most of these can be resolved by working together. Remember that there is always room to grow.Lucas Boleshttp://torontofamilylaw.com/need-a-mediator-2/frequently-asked-questions-mediation/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8430245182138060252.post-32257606740689142122010-07-01T20:11:33.469-07:002010-07-01T20:11:33.469-07:00Hello Ev'Yan, I found your post very interesti...Hello Ev'Yan, I found your post very interesting and conversational. I'm glad you can speak about divorce with confidence and acceptance.<br />My parents divorced when I was about ten. My brother and I had different reactions. I think he felt more pain for the loss of the family unit. I was relieved to see my mother "breathe."<br />Blessings and best wishes to you and all of your family. :)Anitahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08180243708565855383noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8430245182138060252.post-54955995746428237062010-06-19T20:40:11.955-07:002010-06-19T20:40:11.955-07:00Wow. So interesting to see these perspectives. Isn...Wow. So interesting to see these perspectives. Isn't it profound how we all take different situations and grow from them.<br /><br />Thanks for sharing.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07874897254332872367noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8430245182138060252.post-60346830663208020732010-06-17T18:11:45.472-07:002010-06-17T18:11:45.472-07:00Hi Ev'Yan, Your Mom speaks so highly of you a...Hi Ev'Yan, Your Mom speaks so highly of you and your sister and it's easy to see why. What grace you both have.<br /><br />I was so touched that you are able to remember when your family was perfect and that you work daily to make your marriage rich and full. I know that makes your mom very proud.<br /><br />xo jjJoanna Jenkinshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10836376588710862173noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8430245182138060252.post-27260609254526275602010-06-17T15:13:54.486-07:002010-06-17T15:13:54.486-07:00Thank you everyone for your supportive & kind ...Thank you everyone for your supportive & kind comments. :] I'm glad you enjoyed the post!<br /><br />-- Ev'YanEv'Yanhttp://apricot-tea.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8430245182138060252.post-57784415741622662312010-06-17T12:23:10.472-07:002010-06-17T12:23:10.472-07:00Beautifully written!
I was 15 when my parents div...Beautifully written!<br /><br />I was 15 when my parents divorced...or rather seperated (they divorced by the time I was 17). It was just as you described...a huge sense of relief. Our family was free to find their own ways, no longer being tied down by the arguements and frustrations my parents shared. Until my mom's death in 2007, my parents remained friends which really helped our family stay together.<br /><br />Thank you for sharing this. I appreciate the raw honesty.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8430245182138060252.post-21315242114639679522010-06-17T09:45:08.007-07:002010-06-17T09:45:08.007-07:00Thanks so much for sharing!! I am a child of divo...Thanks so much for sharing!! I am a child of divorce and I often reflect on what I've learned from it. I appreciate you noting the positive and trying to bring that into your own union. All the best!!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8430245182138060252.post-27678915883472492952010-06-17T08:32:08.600-07:002010-06-17T08:32:08.600-07:00You have conveyed a very strong message to me Apri...You have conveyed a very strong message to me Apricot... actually I am going through a troubled marriage at the moment and trying to find a ground to stand on.. I wonder what my kids are going through ( 18 and 15) ... Thanks for this wonderful eyeopening blog. <br />Love and hugsChapters From My Lifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07905577212056834284noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8430245182138060252.post-3795751551002705742010-06-17T05:52:36.272-07:002010-06-17T05:52:36.272-07:00Thanks for sharing this with us. You are right abo...Thanks for sharing this with us. You are right about your mom...she is quite a woman to be admired.Deidrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09145504027833176749noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8430245182138060252.post-68687956979039238892010-06-17T05:44:50.903-07:002010-06-17T05:44:50.903-07:00Hi Ev'Yan! I love your name.
I enjoyed readi...Hi Ev'Yan! I love your name.<br /><br />I enjoyed reading such an honest piece about divorce from an older child's perspective.<br /><br />It sounds like you've taken the good things you learned from your folks and employed them; while doing your darndest to keep the bad things at bay.<br /><br />It's all we can hope for in our relationships.<br /><br /><br />Your mom must be so proud of you!People Who Know Me Would Say:https://www.blogger.com/profile/04621641188403948733noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8430245182138060252.post-85098820436589340592010-06-17T01:50:42.719-07:002010-06-17T01:50:42.719-07:00Thank you for sharing your view. Your Mom is a ama...Thank you for sharing your view. Your Mom is a amazing lady and having great supportive daughter are the glue to a family.Formerly known as Frauhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12798890008067408048noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8430245182138060252.post-5158398811551601092010-06-16T21:30:01.952-07:002010-06-16T21:30:01.952-07:00Ev'Yan,
I am so proud of all of you! You'...Ev'Yan,<br />I am so proud of all of you! You're right about the changes in your mom, sister and yourself. I see such strength in all of you and know that it's partially due to your father's mistakes that you've all experienced a transformation within. <br /><br />I also remember and cherish happier times with your mom and dad, but as her BFF, I also remember the deep, heartbreaking anguish that she suffered because of his stupidity. (Sorry, I call it like I see it.) I'm glad that you were able to move beyond and come to an understanding of sorts. I'm not at all discounting your feelings but as your mom's twin sister, I will never, ever understand. Yes, sometimes a marriage has to come to an end, but their's didn't have to end in the manner that it did. <br /><br />Although I believe it IS forgiveable,(with time)I will always feel that it was inexcusable. You should've never had to endure your father's selfishness, but I am so very glad that you and Jarani have blossomed into beautiful young women inside and out. Thanks for sharing your thoughts on your mom's blog. I am so proud of you!twin2https://www.blogger.com/profile/10959956378659198520noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8430245182138060252.post-72349238142104006792010-06-16T20:06:05.577-07:002010-06-16T20:06:05.577-07:00It's so nice to hear from you... and WOW! Besi...It's so nice to hear from you... and WOW! Besides you superb writing, the way you've shared your experiences is touching and easy to understand. You've communicated the ups and downs of the situation and the fabulous results. I think my younger children will come through my divorce relatively unscathed: My youngest was still in my belly when I and her father separated. The next one was 2 and the next 3. The 3 year old remembers us being together... but I think the memories are fading. Luckily, I guess he doesn't remember the bad times/things.<br /><br />My oldest daughter (almost 19, from a previous relationship) has more than likely learned quite a bit from seeing this divorce occur. From witnessing it herself to my sharing different things with her. I'd like to think that no one but me was affected, but I know that isn't true.<br /><br />I hope my children don't make the same mistakes I have made in that arena and walk away as strong and sure as you are.<br /><br />Excellent post. Thanks.Petulahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11246335892746223347noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8430245182138060252.post-6623253924905171672010-06-16T19:39:58.496-07:002010-06-16T19:39:58.496-07:00Thank you for sharing this with us. I was reading...Thank you for sharing this with us. I was reading this and I could hear your mom's voice in yours. :)<br /><br />BTW, I love your name... Ev'Yan, so beautiful.Buckeroomamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02408502555249594576noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8430245182138060252.post-50946029792720035402010-06-16T19:35:46.549-07:002010-06-16T19:35:46.549-07:00Nice post, pally! I like your grown-up perspective...Nice post, pally! I like your grown-up perspective on your parents' divorce. I'm sure it must have been very hard on you all. <br /><br />Looks like you are a great writer like your mom!Linhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07042143254001890567noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8430245182138060252.post-76897762557544064092010-06-16T18:37:30.176-07:002010-06-16T18:37:30.176-07:00Apricot I love your post...you've done your mo...Apricot I love your post...you've done your mom proud...you are as talented and as well written as your mom.... hugs!!!!!nataleehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16999272522761149608noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8430245182138060252.post-73182879892470138992010-06-16T18:36:32.836-07:002010-06-16T18:36:32.836-07:00Powerful words and what a wise woman you are, Apri...Powerful words and what a wise woman you are, Apricot! Marriages go thru phases but when they go bad it is purely awful. You described them in heartwrenching detail. You, your sister and your Mom are survivors and triumphant. Love and cheering for all of you! Cherish that picture in your jewelry box. xoxoxoIna in Alaskahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07163454431322742148noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8430245182138060252.post-50933666132541955432010-06-16T17:48:15.894-07:002010-06-16T17:48:15.894-07:00Very well said!
I just love to read your Mom's...Very well said!<br />I just love to read your Mom's Blog. She's one talented woman so it's not at all surprising that you are talented as well. Great insight!!Sweet Teahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15614958513434632328noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8430245182138060252.post-28905968898751205102010-06-16T17:05:41.183-07:002010-06-16T17:05:41.183-07:00Thanks for posting the child's eyes view on di...Thanks for posting the child's eyes view on divorce. You had inherited your mother's flair for writing. <br /><br />God bless and have a glorious day sweetie! :o)Nezzy (Cow Patty Surprise)https://www.blogger.com/profile/10175389676508928061noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8430245182138060252.post-24181393709153368422010-06-16T16:39:31.901-07:002010-06-16T16:39:31.901-07:00Glad you are doing your best to not repeat history...Glad you are doing your best to not repeat history in your own marriage.<br /><br />Peace, Love and Chocolate<br />TiffanyTiffanyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00095653554788017373noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8430245182138060252.post-13694632304489717412010-06-16T15:09:37.698-07:002010-06-16T15:09:37.698-07:00Hi Ev'Yan! Thanks for agreeing to write some ...Hi Ev'Yan! Thanks for agreeing to write some guest posts. You are a talented writer like your Mom. I appreciated reading what going through your parents divorce was like from your perspective.Marihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06289456727508305342noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8430245182138060252.post-75220087959634306572010-06-16T14:21:59.169-07:002010-06-16T14:21:59.169-07:00What a treasure to hear about this from your persp...What a treasure to hear about this from your perspective. As I'm currently in the midst of a divorce, I can most certainly appreciate this more than ever.Liz Mayshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13960276167677132860noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8430245182138060252.post-39472083276424023992010-06-16T14:10:48.824-07:002010-06-16T14:10:48.824-07:00Wow, you never get to hear from the child's po...Wow, you never get to hear from the child's point of view how a divorce as affected them and what it has also taught them. Thanks for sharing and pleasure to meet you.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8430245182138060252.post-37087556135511530302010-06-16T14:07:39.205-07:002010-06-16T14:07:39.205-07:00Welcome Ev'Yan (aka Apricot)! It's nice t...Welcome Ev'Yan (aka Apricot)! It's nice to have you here. I just adore your mom and I can see that you have inherited her beautiful, detailed writing style. Thanks for sharing your story with us. I'm so glad that you see the positive in what happened to your family.<br /><br />My husband is actually a product of divorced parents as well. Ironically it happened around the time he was 18 years old too. Like you, Kirk says that the divorce helped him see things in a new light. He learned what he NEVER wanted to do another human being. He actually says the divorce made him a better man b/c of what he witnessed. And I have to agree with him. He is a wonderful husband and father, very big on communicating and working out any little problem we face. <br /><br />It's great to know that he's not the only one who turned a difficult time into something life changing and hopeful. I loved your thoughts on the photograph in the jewelry box.... just beautiful! <br /><br />And just like Kirk's mom is better off where she is now, your mom is thriving and doing wonderfully now too! I'm so happy for them both. Continue to have her back for she loves you so very much! :-) <br /><br />Bless you!Mandyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03345244543899178740noreply@blogger.com