On Being...Honest

A part of living my new year, real and authentically, I realize that what has been a stumbling block in some ways in my life is honesty. Not that I've lied to others...too much conviction to do that...but lied to myself. I accepted friendships, relationships, outfits, music, books and more that I wasn't content with or happy about. Some of the friendships were ones where I accepted his/her lies and brushed them off, accepting the friendship in spite of it. I gave them the benefit of the doubt that maybe there were reasons for untruths but no more.

I aim to live my life honest with others and I want to accept only the same. That's not to say that if you ask me if I like the way you look in a pair of jeans, I'm going to blurt out, "You look like Gouda cheese wrapped in plastic too tight!" No! But, I do want to know that when my day is over, I've done the best I can to be real and to expect the same from those close to me.

That includes dating. I've begun dating again, as hard as it will be, I refuse to accept any lies at all. I lived the two relationships that I thought would last, accepting lies. No more!

I'm ready for the challenge! Are you?

Comments

Liz Mays said…
Good for you! The third time's the charm, right?

I'm so glad you're accepting nothing less than honesty. You deserve that.
January 3, 2011 at 7:46 AM
Ina in Alaska said…
Honesty with kindness is always a good policy. Also, good for you to begin dating again! The key word here is DATING. Have fun, take it slow, you have been through a lot - I care xoxo
January 3, 2011 at 8:02 AM
Erin MacPherson said…
Good luck! And honesty is always best. Have fun dating.
January 3, 2011 at 8:13 AM
Diva's Thoughts said…
It's funny you write this today......I wrote something similar on my blog this morning. lol
January 3, 2011 at 8:22 AM
Anita said…
I believe, Simone, that we get wiser with age. If we listen to the voice of God within us, and act upon it, we make good choices.

Wishing you much joy this year and always!
January 3, 2011 at 8:59 AM
Unknown said…
I feel the same way about honesty..It's a must. I was married once before and don't have time for nonsense anymore..Good for you!!
January 3, 2011 at 9:27 AM
Brian Miller said…
nice. sounds like a healthy step...and goodjob not settling for...and seeking honesty
January 3, 2011 at 9:41 AM
Formerly known as Frau said…
Sounds like a good solid plan, you deserve the best I hope you don't have to look far! Happy New Year!
January 3, 2011 at 12:21 PM
Mari said…
I've also accepted dishonesty in a few friendships and it never works out.
Good for you for making a conscious decision for honesty, in friendships and dating. Praying God sends a good one your way!
January 3, 2011 at 1:00 PM
Lin said…
Look at you getting back on that horse!! Pally, you never cease to amaze me!

That said--don't accept anything less than honest. Who needs games at this point?
January 3, 2011 at 6:03 PM
Nezzy (Cow Patty Surprise) said…
Good for you sweetie! Accept nothing less...you deserve it!

God bless ya and have a wonderful day!!! :o)
January 3, 2011 at 7:12 PM
Teresa @ Grammy Girlfriend said…
Loved this...I was thinking about you today....I think New Years makes us all rethink our lives...I have several areas I am struggling with
January 3, 2011 at 11:09 PM
Buckeroomama said…
You deserve no less!

Cheering you on. :)
January 3, 2011 at 11:45 PM
Deidra said…
Oh, this is good! Happy for you, my friend. Enjoy this part of your journey. Eyes wide open!
January 4, 2011 at 4:30 AM
Anonymous said…
Good for you! I am so amazed at your strength. I wish you nothing but the best and will always be here to support you. xoxoxxo
January 4, 2011 at 5:21 AM
Unknown said…
I am so very excited for you. Anyone that gets to spend time with you will be blessed indeed!
January 4, 2011 at 8:26 AM
Linda Myers said…
A new beginning! Imagine honesty as a way of life. Sounds very exciting.
January 4, 2011 at 9:52 PM
People Who Know Me Would Say: said…
Living an authentic life....I've found it to be a journey, as opposed to a destination - like so many challenging goals. But it's worth the effort.

Simone, do you read Max Lucado? I'm reading a book right of his right now called 'Fearless' that has something wonderful on every page. I think you would really enjoy it. :)
January 5, 2011 at 2:00 AM
Mandy said…
Hooray for dating again! I'm excited for you. I hope it's fun and that you enjoy yourself. For a gut check, just let your daughter give feedback. Good luck and I am pulling for you. No lies, just good times! :)

Mandy
January 5, 2011 at 5:47 PM
Debby@Just Breathe said…
So glad your dating. Honesty is a must.
January 6, 2011 at 2:49 PM
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