When I stop and think about sex, I still blush (a little). When I was growing up, I had no clue about sex. In fact, what I learned, I learned from Judy Blume's Are You There God, It's Me Margaret? I totally could've written that one...Are You There God, It's Me, Simone...Again.
As I got older, I came to the conclusion that "it" must be bad because it wasn't commonly discussed, especially in church, where all the do's and don't were always talked about. To me, it was just plain ol' taboo.
But, now that I'm married and older and some what...just a bit, wiser, I'm wondering why it was such a hushed topic. I mean, although I don't expect my pastor to announce to the congregation that his wife gave him a blow....j..b, I do wish that it was talked about, openly and not meant to be harmful but beautiful.
Sex is all up in our faces...on tv, in music, on billboards and definitely, the internet. For the very first time, I saw a movie that was rated R and it actually showed men and their privates and not just the balls but the pencil or marker (depending how big it was).
Sex shouldn't be something that is whispered about behind closed doors. I remember hearing a pastor's wife who was quite honest about her and her husband of 40 something years, bedroom secrets. She said, "He can't seem to get it up or keep it up but our lovemaking is better than ever. You know why? Because he knows how to please me. Sometimes, we use toys and other times, we don't but I wouldn't trade the intimacy we share with any other couple." Now THAT'S beautiful!!
I'll share a special interview coming up, with a talented writer who has written a book on Sex, Love and Liberation. That writer?? My daughter, Married Boo aka Ev'Yan.
My desire is to share the beauty of what God created sex to be and to let go of any inhibitions that may come from what we were told or how we were raised or by what was or wasn't said in our growing up years.
In the meantime, I'd love to know, how do you feel when talking about sex??