Saturday, April 14, 2012

Number 1 Cheerleader

With eyes wide open, I entered into marriage for the second time. I decided that I was going to trust but only to a certain extent. I was going to love but not completely so that it would cause me to experience hurt. I was going to give my heart but keep a certain part behind a wall, for just in case.

But unexpectedly, that all went out the window. I became J's number one cheerleader. Being the number one cheerleader looks like this...

"Babe, I can't believe you opened the bottle of ketchup! You're amazing!"

"You are so wise! I'm amazed at the wisdom you possess. You put words into perspective in a way that I actually get."

"I love that you never fail to let me know just how much I mean to you. You're my Mr. Wonderful."

Recently, J told me that I see him as perfect. He's right - I do. What I mean is that I know he has flaws. He makes plenty of mistakes but what I see is where he is "perfect" for me. It is so easy to tell him thank you for making dinner after he's worked a ten hour shift at work. It's so easy to take for granted that he wants to drive to the coast just because he knows that I need to continue to heal and to relax. It's becoming easier and easier to look past the socks thrown on the floor and shoes left to trip over and see him as "perfect".

Another bonus that comes from being his number one cheerleader is that he walks taller...he's content...he's certain that he is everything that I want in a man and more.

What I have learned is that our men need to know that they matter to us. They need to know that they have captured our hearts like no other man can. They need to hear it, to know it, to feel it, to live it.

The more I tell J that he is wise; he is sexy; and he is mine; the more I know he believes it.

What is it that you love about your man? (Or woman?)


Mari said...

Good advise Simone! It can be easy to take our men for granted and that's not wise.
I love my hubby's integrity, his deep faith, his talents!

Brian Miller said...

yes we do...we need love and encouragement for sure...and some to help us remember to believe in ourselves...

Rachel Thompson said...

I love this post! My friend often tells me that I always make him feel good. It's okay to let him know when he's important to you!

Stacy said...

I feel like you wrote this one for me. Several years ago my husband betrayed me. I chose then to stick it out. He agreed, but we never had any help getting past things. We're pretty good, but I admit that certain things push buttons with me. Lately God has been convicting me that I need to be a lot intentional in looking for things I can praise and be thankful to him for....that if I do that, he just might become the husband God wants him to be (and I need him to be).

Chatty Crone said...

I love his sense of humor! sandie

Jill said...

So sweet Simone! I am also blessed with a wonderful man and he treats me and the girls so well I can't think of anything I don't like :-)
Have a great evening!


P.S. Thanks for stopping by and following my mom's blog. She's so excited about this new journey. :-)
Not sure if you subscribed to her comments or not but she did reply back to you on her blog. She's still getting the hang of navigating other ones :-)

Ina in Alaska said...

Glad you are happy Simone!

After some serious marital challenges I can only say that I feel it is important just to be a good friend to your spouse and be a good friend to yourself too.

Hugs to Stacy (above comment)

Beau's Mom said...

I love the fact that last night, Joe had a moment of clarity and finally realized that FOURTEEN MONTHS AGO, it was HIS idea for us to move to Florida, ripping me out of the arms of my adoring sister and the close proximity of my healthcare which I now need again.

He might be slow and obtuse, but he gets there eventually. AND has a giant conscience.

Nezzy said...

Yep, ya gotta let 'em know how important they are to ya and that ya need 'em. 'Let 'em open that jar lid...even if ya can do it yourself.

I love that fact that I know Farm Boy would move heave and earth x10 for me. I love how his eyes light up when I walk into a room. 'Nuff said...believe me...I could go on!

God bless ya and have yourself a glorious week dear friend!!! :o)

Lin said...

I'm glad you found love again, Simone! It's wonderful when it's good, isn't it?

I love how we laugh together. He at me. Me at him. Both of us together. It keeps us sane.

Sweet Tea said...

I love that my husband is always a rock for me when I need him to be. I also love that he is the Leader of our household.

Joanna Jenkins said...

Smiling for you Simone and glad to hear how much J means to you and vice-a-versa.

My husband still give me butterflies when he walks in a room. After nearly 23 years, I think that's pretty darn great.

xo jj

Liz @ A Nut in a Nutshell said...

You've been through enough to know that he's the perfect one for you so this makes total sense. It warms my heart to see you in this happy, cozy place in your life. :)

Veronica Lee said...

Great advice, Simone!

So happy to see you happy!

Buckeroomama said...

Yes! Great post, Simone.

Where do I even begin? I love how hubby and I laugh together. I love that he's hands-on with the kids. I love what an absolute mensch he is. :)

Annesphamily said...

I love my husbands kind heart, his great kitchen skills and his financial wisdom. I love how yu write and you always post something to think about....Love and Blessings to you and J!

Anita said...

It's to nice to hear that the honeymoon continues!

You will love him even more as he loves and supports you through the death of your brother-in-law because you will see and know even more of him as your family adjusts to this recent situation.

I'll think I'll keep my husband, too. :)


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