I got an email from one of my friends who has been a blogger friend for as long as I've been blogging and that's what she said.
Who me? Are you serious?
I was touched and humbled but I don't feel like I fit that description at all. I mean, sure I do nice things...like at this moment, I'm on an eating strike in solidarity with J who is prepping for a colonoscopy. (I want him to feel like he's not alone in the torture.) But, that's not always the case.
In fact, I have some honest confessions to make:
* I can get feisty. Ask J. He'll tell you. He calls it being ornery (just a nice way of saying that I'm being a pain in the butt.)
* Being a bonus mom has been much more challenging than I thought. I like things neat and clean and the minute the kids leave stuff a mess, then I growl or bottle my frustration up inside, seething as I toss and turn.
* I can be a penny-pincher. I would rather save money than spend it. Some people may call that being miserly but I just don't like the idea of spending 18.00 on something that I could've bought and cooked for half the cost.
* I get impatient often. I want things to happen yesterday.
* I can get grouchy over little things that may not be a big deal at all.
* I don't tolerate know it all's too well and sometimes I say, "Shut up" in my head when they are talking.
* I totally have no tolerance for bratty kids at a store. I sometimes give them the stink eye to make them stop.
* I say no thank you often to cute little girl scouts selling cookies.
* I fight enviousness with a vengeance.
* I blow things out of proportion at times. (Not lie...just exaggerate.)
* I have a huge problem with stress eating.
* I sometimes want to have my cake and eat it too.
* I call myself names...nerd, dummy, etc.
* I smile on the outside even when I don't feel like smiling at all.
* I put on a tough exterior even though I'm ready to crumble into a ball.
* I read and study the Bible less than I do other things...not making God first priority.
* I vent - A LOT!!
* I actually have a hard time believing that I'm a nice person. There's way too much that I need work on in my life.
* I dread that you all are going to tell me that I'm nice just because you think that's what I want to hear.
But, to make me feel better, what is one thing that you wish you could erase from the person that you are?
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You know what? You and I are a lot alike! I read through this list, thinking - that's me, and yes, that's me too. I am not a good saver though - I could learn from you!
That being said. I think you are one of the nicest people, even though we share some of these faults. They just make you human. :)
I'm the same about saving. I have days where I intend on not spending a dime.
I too share at least 10+ items-too many to repeat.
And yes, I believe you are nice.
Not because that is what you want to hear (although I hope you do!)but because this is just a "minus" list. Also known as the human factor.
Looking over your past posts there are too many "pluses" to count on how thoughtful & conscientious you are to and about others!
And never have you left anything but positive words on my blog!!
And so I will continue to believe as I do-that you are just nice!
I could have written that list. As long as we are on this earth we will struggle with one or many of your list. We're human after all.
I'm trying to be "more tolerant with people".
I appreciate your honesty. One of mine would be not having enough patience.
What a refreshingly honest heart felt post sweetie!
Oh glory girl...my list is long. I surprise folks when I tell 'em I have a temper 'cause on the outside I'm calm, I have no patience...want everything yesterday..this also surprised others. Aren't we great at puttin' on the masks!!!
I know we are suppose to love our enemies but there are a few that just burr my skin' every time I'm near 'em. I won't go on...but I could!!! 'Nuff said!
I'm gonna tell ya sweet sister in Christ...your sure not alone here! Not a one is us even comes close to perfect. We'll let Jesus take that honor!!!
God bless and enjoy your imperfect day dear heart! :o)
i would def cut back the emo a bit honestly...i can get pretty wrapped up in some things when i should probably chill just a bit...
I am so like you too! lol I bet that we all are.
Sandie
I share some of those attributes with you. I'm a stress eater too. I have a girlfriend that cannot eat when she's under stress. Weight just falls off of her and onto me. And, becasue I'm not 20 or 30 or 40 anymore, if comes off much harder.
One thing a never regret spending money on is vacations. I can see that those memories will be valuable once we are older and don't have as much $$ coming in to use for that. (I'm already 61... good thing Terry's 5 years younger.) :)
I'm reading your list thinking, Check, got that one! Check, there's another. We all have so many layers. Thank the Lord, he's not through with us yet.
When someone says that to me, it just reminds me to try to live up to that comment. I'm definitely not very nice all the time and so I have to work on that. Sarcasm is big in my family, so it takes an honest effort to say and do nice things for others on a regular basis. You aren't alone in your admissions here. :)
I KNOW you are nice, having had the privilege of meeting you face-to-face. As to what I would change about myself? When I have an 'alone' day all planned and someone calls and asks me to help out or do something for them I resent it. That is SO petty of me! But in the time periods when I'm taking care of my grandsons full time, 10 to 11 hours per day, an 'alone' day is such a treasure.
How insightful you are! You have inspired me to sit and reflect a little on myself and my circumstances...I have missed being here.
I vent a lot, too. Too much really. I am learning that it helps no one and really makes some people uncomfortable. I am working on that.
Venting or not, I'd have to agree with your friend, though.
Sounds like you are perfectly nice to me. I do so many of the same things you do. I would love to be better with my lace of patience. I seem to have none. NONE.
I daresay every one of your readers could relate to most (if not all) of what you wrote. :)
Do have a go at your list again and think if for every item there you could think of an instance where you were *not* that... I challenge you to draw up a list on why you *are* one of the nicest people on this earth. It doesn't come easily for us to toot our own horn, so if you don't want to publish that list, that's okay, but go do make up that list... and accept that you *are* one of the nicest people on this earth. :)
I love your honesty.
You and I are very similar. Your list looks a lot like mine would look.
Probably the one thing I'd like to change about myself is my impatience. I wish I could be a more patient person but I'm just not. Never have been and probably never will be!
We are a lot alike. Most of the things that you listed are the same things I so. I'm an expert at the stink eye (I call it the "look of doom").
The one thing that's differet about me is that I spend too much money instead of penny pinch. I'd like to change that for sure. I don't necessarily want to penny pinch but I'd like to be smarter about my spending.
Your honest is refreshing. All the things that you list are not so bad though. Nothing to be worried about as you are human!
If I ponder long enough, I can come up with a long list, too, but I choose to keep my rose-colored glasses on. :)
But, if I "must," I'd change my procrastinating ways. I'd priortize; do the necessary things first, then go from there.
Life is short - we will never measure up to Jesus, as Nezzy said. So, when you're struggling with a flaw, forgive yourself immediately, tell yourself you'll do better next time (and try to), and then have a slice of cake... or whatever your pleasure is. You may have to repeat this daily, or even hourly, but you'll have more fun. lol
I think every one can read a little bit of themselves into this..
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