Moving on
I've been "told" not to discuss things dealing with my ex and his wife, any further. I was also told not to have any communication with him and he with me. This being told by an unnamed party but one that you can read between the lines.
I have a problem with this. This is my blog and I refuse to allow someone to dictate what I should say and not say on my blog. I have never written any untruths but maybe the truth is a hurtful thing? I've also not purposely mentioned names for that very reason, to provide privacy for those people who wish to remain nameless.
So, here on out, I will not talk about the ex having an affair with the person that he is now married to. I will not write about the fact that she is attempting to dictate her wishes yet, isn't woman enough to speak English to me to express her views. I will not talk about how she claims that I'm causing problems in their marriage by blogging, when the problems existed the moment they hooked up. I will not talk about the fact that she is my oldest daughter's age and yet feels that she has the power to manipulate her wishes in a house that her name is not on. I will not block her from my blog because if she doesn't like what she's reading, she doesn't have to read it.
I will talk about my daughters who I'm so very proud of! I will talk about how it took both my ex and I to raise such wonderful, intelligent, beautiful daughters. I will talk about the memories of them growing up and in that case, if he was a part of that memory, I will not mention or give him credit for that memory, in order to abide by the unnamed person's wishes - even though he is deserving of that credit.
I intend to be there when our first grandchild is born and when our youngest gets married. If she doesn't like that, I will no longer give a moment's thought.
I will from this day on forgive her for her stupidity and distrust while inwardly, not outwardly, expressing that I'm glad that she now knows what it feels like to be on the receiving end of things. I will not waste a moment of time feeling sorry for her but will let her know that if my daughters are ever pushed out of their dad's life because of her manipulation and insecurities, I'm stepping in.
With that said, I now resume this regularly scheduled blog.
I have a problem with this. This is my blog and I refuse to allow someone to dictate what I should say and not say on my blog. I have never written any untruths but maybe the truth is a hurtful thing? I've also not purposely mentioned names for that very reason, to provide privacy for those people who wish to remain nameless.
So, here on out, I will not talk about the ex having an affair with the person that he is now married to. I will not write about the fact that she is attempting to dictate her wishes yet, isn't woman enough to speak English to me to express her views. I will not talk about how she claims that I'm causing problems in their marriage by blogging, when the problems existed the moment they hooked up. I will not talk about the fact that she is my oldest daughter's age and yet feels that she has the power to manipulate her wishes in a house that her name is not on. I will not block her from my blog because if she doesn't like what she's reading, she doesn't have to read it.
I will talk about my daughters who I'm so very proud of! I will talk about how it took both my ex and I to raise such wonderful, intelligent, beautiful daughters. I will talk about the memories of them growing up and in that case, if he was a part of that memory, I will not mention or give him credit for that memory, in order to abide by the unnamed person's wishes - even though he is deserving of that credit.
I intend to be there when our first grandchild is born and when our youngest gets married. If she doesn't like that, I will no longer give a moment's thought.
I will from this day on forgive her for her stupidity and distrust while inwardly, not outwardly, expressing that I'm glad that she now knows what it feels like to be on the receiving end of things. I will not waste a moment of time feeling sorry for her but will let her know that if my daughters are ever pushed out of their dad's life because of her manipulation and insecurities, I'm stepping in.
With that said, I now resume this regularly scheduled blog.
Comments
You go girl!
Hallie
It's like the saying: If you don't like it, DON'T LOOK AT IT! It's just commonsense.
& I hope this unnamed person realizes how immature & ludicrous this all is. She needs to grow up.
Perhaps if certain people weren't nosing around reading your blog... they wouldn't have the chance to feel offended.
The mere fact that you two are not friend's puzzle's me as to why she deems it necessary to grace YOUR blog with HER presence... I mean.... I only visit my friends and those I wish to be friends with. I can't imagine snooping around playing the curious cat and then when my feelings get hurt, I run and complain about finding out something that I had no business knowing from the start! THE NERVE!!!
Girl... This is your blog... your private thoughts that you wish to share with your blog buddies! BLOG ON and whoever don't like can BLOG off! (hehehehe)
xoxoxoxoxox
Donna Marie
Maybe instead of talking about Mr. and Mrs. Knucklehead, you should do like I do--talk all about the lovely things you have now and how much they are missing out on. Oh sure, a little dig here and there is fun, but ignoring the idiots will drive them CRAZY! I promise you. It's the best get-even.
Don't you see they/she is miserable?? Let her sit in her own pile of poop and wallow in it. Don't give her any more ammo, pally. I'm telling you--it will drive her more crazy. :)
email me sometime--I hate discussing it where Knucklehead (how do you say that in Spanish??!) can read it.
So now you understand the mis trust. :) It is, however still a free country and just like they were free to do as they wished, so are you free to write whatever.
there is such a thing as, the 1st amendment. :)
You have hit in one of two subjects that incense me...
Oh I have so much to say, but I will bite my tongue until Cheesecake factory.
WHYYY do men do this??!!
You are WOMAN - so keep on roaring.
It's your right.
She needs to change the channel.. when I don't like a commercial.. I CHANGE THE DAMN CHANNEL!
*ugh!
If you, current wife, are reading this, don't look for me to hand you any tissues.....you have nothing but my worst wishes for a miserable life and karma will certainly get you, girl.
You are a wonderful person and the more I read your blog, the more I love getting to know you.
If unnamed dirt bag wife doesn't like what she's reading, then perhaps she shouldn't be reading.
And if SHE EVER tries to push your daughter's father out of their life, I'll stand right next to you as you beat the crap out of her, even if it is with just words.
HUGS
Children.
If there are no children, nothing remains common.
Isn't there more to LIVING life than constantly picking at the scabs of wounds that should be healed? It needs to be respected that you have "common ground" with your ex and communication will have to occur, it NEEDS to occur. It's silly that people try to eliminate communication and think that it will SOLVE the problem. Do you oftentimes solve your problems with zero talking? I don't! :)
You do YOUR BLOG as you see fit. If it's helpful to you to air things, to speak about things, to "talk things out" through writing, you keep on doing it. I haven't read your blog but a few times, however, I already feel the need to come in here and "check on you". :) YOU have a wonderful Tuesday!
Karma is a b*tch. What you have put out into the world will come back to haunt you.
I promise you that.
You should fear the retribution headed your way far more than you should be concerned about what is said on this blog.
I feel sorry for you. Someday, somewhere down the road, your life will be hell.
And you can thank your homewrecking ways for that.