I Love My Girls
If I don't boast enough about my daughters, it's only because I don't want to be accused of being an "obnoxious" mommy but I sure love them both.
As I look at where my life was BD (before divorce) and where I am AD (After Divorce), I don't know where I would be if I didn't have my girls to get me through some moments. They saw me cry many tears. They saw through the "trying to be tough and smile and laugh" in spite of them knowing that I was crying and so very angry inside. They encouraged me to believe that I am beautiful and loving and a wonderful woman. In fact, I have saved voice mails and even emails and letters that I listen to and read over and over again.
As much as they have been here for me, I do my best to be there for them. That doesn't mean that they don't respect me as mommy because they do but they will say in a heartbeat, my mom is my one of my closest friends...and I believe that with all of my heart.
Today, my TV Boo called me and asked if I could rescue her. I didn't know what kind of rescuing she needed but I told her I was there. Turns out, she wanted me to keep her company while she grocery shopped. So I did. She put stuff in the cart while I marveled over items..."Oh loo, pumpkin butter!" "That Wasabi Teriyaki sauce sounds delicious!"
It may not seem like much but when it comes down to it, these are the moments that memories are made of. Nothing is a chore when it comes to spending time with my girls. They both have wonderful guys in their lives and I have a terrific son in law and maybe one to be BUT, there is no greater joy than to still spend time laughing and sharing with them. With them, there's no hiding the real me...they have seen me even when I was ashamed to see "me" and they accept me more than anything, just as I am.
As I look at where my life was BD (before divorce) and where I am AD (After Divorce), I don't know where I would be if I didn't have my girls to get me through some moments. They saw me cry many tears. They saw through the "trying to be tough and smile and laugh" in spite of them knowing that I was crying and so very angry inside. They encouraged me to believe that I am beautiful and loving and a wonderful woman. In fact, I have saved voice mails and even emails and letters that I listen to and read over and over again.
As much as they have been here for me, I do my best to be there for them. That doesn't mean that they don't respect me as mommy because they do but they will say in a heartbeat, my mom is my one of my closest friends...and I believe that with all of my heart.
Today, my TV Boo called me and asked if I could rescue her. I didn't know what kind of rescuing she needed but I told her I was there. Turns out, she wanted me to keep her company while she grocery shopped. So I did. She put stuff in the cart while I marveled over items..."Oh loo, pumpkin butter!" "That Wasabi Teriyaki sauce sounds delicious!"
It may not seem like much but when it comes down to it, these are the moments that memories are made of. Nothing is a chore when it comes to spending time with my girls. They both have wonderful guys in their lives and I have a terrific son in law and maybe one to be BUT, there is no greater joy than to still spend time laughing and sharing with them. With them, there's no hiding the real me...they have seen me even when I was ashamed to see "me" and they accept me more than anything, just as I am.
Comments
Thank you for all the positive words.
I know you'll be fine too.
You provided a teachable moment through your example and one that wouldn't have been learned any other way than living through it with you.
You are a survivor and have shown the strength to overcome adversity and come out of it looking beautiful and alive.
Love and Hugs ~ Kat
Elle
I have been enjoying spending quality time with my "recovering from surgery" husband. We had the best time ever on Saturday afternoon sitting in our chairs and watching the Little League World Series game. And the 13 year olds on the LL team from Chula Vista beat San Antonio. I just love baseball! Great future players!!
There's a Chinese saying that goes something like this.
"When choosing a kitten, take a look at the mother cat"
It means when you're choosing a wife, look at your future mom-in-law!!
xo
Thank you for the offer =/ scary stuff around here. I'll tell ya. looks like we're fogged in.
Glad you had a good time yesterday!
Love spending time with my boys!
Your girls are that way because of you, so kudos to you. :)
Justine :o )
Found you through FRAU...
glad I did!
what a beautiful post.
You know I love you, Mommy, with all of my heart -- it goes without saying! Thank you for this post dedicated to me & Jarebear. You are our rock, & without you, we'd be nothing.
Okay, we'd be SOMETHING... just not as awesome as we are now. ;]
-- Married Boo!
Your girls sound like wonderful young women--you have a right to be proud of them. And of yourself.