Monday, August 10, 2009

A Lesson in Friendships

I'm writing an article for a magazine on friendships...women friendships. It may be a topic that's overdone but in my opinion, it's not done enough. I mean, there's lifelong friendships that exist from grade school and then there's friendships that exist as a result of happenstance....serendipidity. Often times, blogging friendships grow from that...serendipity.

When my daughters were growing up, I would say to them, "To have a friend, you must be friendly." It sounds corny now but back then, they truly believed that in order to be a friend, it began with you. You reached out first, you lent a hand, or a shoulder to cry on, or arms to hug or even a treasured rock to give. I grew up believing that too. When I have a friend that is in need, I immediately spring into action. "Is there anything I can do? Do you want me to come over to help? Stay there, I'm on my way...and no, I'm not taking no for an answer." Friendship means not taking score over who called who and how many times. You just know that you know that she has your back and you have hers.

Do you have a friend like that? If that friend were to be down on their luck, would you drop all that you were doing to lend a hand? AND ---There's no such thing as needy in friendships. I am there for you and you are there for me...PERIOD!!!! It may be my time to collapse and cry while you are the strong one but you know what? When it's your time, you can bet your boots I'll be right there.

So, in celebration of women friendships, grab your girlfriend by the hand, and let her know just how much she means to you. Trust me, she may think you are nuts for a quick second and then grin from ear to ear. Everyone needs a CHICKEN....What's a chicken??? A chick + friend = chicken.


Heart2Heart said...

Hmm, could I grab you and call you my girlfriend?

Actually some of my best friends have been made within the blogging community. We have just all been there or done that and we can accept each other for how we are, without changing anything about ourselves.

Thanks for bringing this to our attention and to take the time to tell our friends that they mean the world and so much more.

Love and Hugs ~ Kat

Ina in Alaska said...

I treasure my girlfriends.

Elle Bee said...

It took me nearly 30 years to find two friends who I know I could call at 4 am and they wouldn't bat an eye. Now that I've found them, I know what true friendship between women is.
You always bring up interesting topics. I'm seeing my girlfriends tomorrow. Because of what you wrote, I'm going to make sure they know how much I love them.

Teresa @ Grammy Girlfriend said...

My girlfriends are special....Thanks for stopping by my blog....

Tami said...

Simone, you girl are a very loyal friend!
I, well NEED some improvement. I have a million things going on at home and can never ever just SIT and talk.

I give you 10 stars out of 5! *grin

The Peach Tart said...

Girlfriends are one of the things that make my world go round.

Deidra said...

True friendships are a treasure, indeed.

I'll be in LA/Ventura/Oxnard Oct 21- 28.

blueviolet said...

You are a dream friend! I don't think I've ever met someone who doesn't have strings attached.

You are such a beautiful person.

mother goose said...

Amen! AMEN! I know I need me some good chickens and I like them grilled and fried.

Wonderful World of Weiners said...

I have one like that and I write about her all the time. I'm very lucky to have Blender Kimmy in my life!


Danica said...

I love my BFF so much. I don't know where I would be without her. When my Mom died she helped me out, when I got divorced she was there...I just don't know what I would have done without her. And I would do ANYTHING for her.

I have lots of other friends I would do anything for, but my BFF is special for a reason.

Ev`Yan said...

Mommy, you are my chicken.

& so is Jarebear. :]

Veronica Lee said...

I couldn't live without my girlfriends.

Justine said...

I loved this because it really made me think. Aside from Jill, the only "old" friend I have is Sinead. We met when she was 3 and I was 4 and we have never lost touch in all the intervening years, even though we haven't lived in the same state for about 20 of them.

I think I've finally found someone in my neighborhood I can actually count on, trust and love without all that gossip bullshit that goes on here. I haven't made a TRUE friend since HS.

Justine :o )

Joanna Jenkins said...

VERY well said!!!! Thanks for the reminder!

I'm just back from vacation. I missed you!


twin2 said...

I totally agree that friendship is sometimes a learned experience. We don't grow up knowing how to be friends with someone. Some of us are fortunate enough to have a mom or an aunt who modeled authentic friendships. I agree that in order to have a friend you need to be one. It's not corny at all. So many women walk around feeling lonely although surrounded by so many. I think what they're really lacking is that one (or two) true friends; the ones who will cry with you, cheer you on and encourage you to move forward when you just don't have the strength to go it alone. Today, many young girls need mentors who will show them what real friendships are all about. Thanks for th reminder.

Rona's Home Page said...

I used to have friendships like the one you described. I have found that when I got married I didn't have the time to nuture them like what you described.
I'm trying to work on my friendships that I've neglected.


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